Despite the fact that I just wrote a novel on the topic, I have one more thing to say. Reading an online article about the controversy I found the following quote:
Terry O’Neill, the president of the National Organization for Women, said she had respect for the private choices made by women such as Pam Tebow but condemned the planned ad as “extraordinarily offensive and demeaning.”
What?? Explain to me what is offensive and demeaning about “Celebrate family. Celebrate life.” Seriously. Other than the previously mentioned matter of conscience, what can you possibly find offensive about that message.
Based on her comments, I suppose I’m somehow “demeaning” myself by carrying the little boy that currently that resides in my womb. Heck, it’s probably extremely “offensive and demeaning” that I choose to sacrifice a career and expendable income to be at home raising my family. I’m just so disgusted at the messages we are passing on to the girls of this country. I know it’s the work of the devil, but I can’t help but feel disgusted.
The fact that 1 in 3 women have had a child ripped from their womb is neither demeaning nor offensive, but 30 seconds of air time dedicated to the dignity of life and family are? What’s demeaning and offensive are the millions of women suffering in silence because of the shame and guilt of a misguided decision they once made. What’s demeaning and offensive are girls/women who are afraid to carry a baby to term because of social repercussions.
If you want to head up an organization for women, do work that truly benefits women. Work to end abortion. Work to genuinely and lovingly support girls and women in “unplanned” pregnancies. Work to end domestic violence. Work to support women who are suffering physically or emotionally for any reason. Work for increased research on the numerous mental health issues that women are more prone to suffering. Work for more research on cancers that affect women. Work to end prostitution and pornography. Work to end the marketing of everything from beer to dish soap with the objectification of women. Work for equal wages. Heck, work for women to receive unequal, higher wages so they can afford the nanny and a housekeeper so they don’t go home to another full time job. Work to promote a healthy self-image among women and girls. Work to teach girls that they do not have to have sex or dress like sluts to be popular, have a boyfriend or advance in the world. There are plenty of demeaning and offensive women’s issues to tackle but a respect for life and family IS NOT among them.
Women should be fighting together for dignity and respect. They should be building each other up, not tearing each other down. To hear comments like the one mentioned above is disturbing. As a fellow blogger pointed out,
“When women’s advocacy groups are opposed to women THINKING about their choices, then it’s time to take a long, hard look at the movement.
I am an advocate for women’s rights. But if you have to trample on the rights of others to be an advocate for your cause, then you need to rethink your priorities.”
I, for one, will be praying for Terry O’Neill and all the women over whom she has influence. It’s issues like this that make me so grateful I only have boys up to this point.